Ask the big question

There is a moment…in every person’s life (both Male and Female) when we seem to awaken one minute and look around.  What we see…is something that we are not accustomed to seeing…it is familiar… but somehow totally different.

And at that single moment…a question (or two or three) jumps up into our consciousness…

If you haven’t been there yet…take my word for it…you will.  At that moment…the question or questions that stands out over all the thoughts that are traveling through your mind at that point is:

Who am I?…and what am I doing?…What am I supposed to be doing?

Do you have answers for these questions?  If you don’t (yet), I can help you out a bit.  Relative to those three questions, here’s three ways to help you figure it out.

1.  You definitely need to know who you are, before you can figure out any answers to the other two questions.  Answering questions always seems to uncover more questions.  Let’s begin by answering the first question:  Think back to a time when you had dreams of being a (fill in the blank).   That might have been a long time ago for some of us…and not so long for the rest.  We’ll use that point as a reference place to start.

I don’t need to know what your dream or your desire was, but what is it NOW?  Are you now…what you wanted to be now…way back then?  (There’s gotta be a country song in there somewhere, but we’ll move on without it.)  So, think about your dreams…and think about your realities.  Do they match?  If not…how big is the gap?  Step one is to write down your dream(s) back then…and what your realities are now.

2. Do our dreams die of their own accord?  Did we release them as our lives went on, because we out-grew them.  Or did they just get lost in the hustle-bustle of trying to make a living? Did others help us to re-program our beliefs to include different possible realities but leave out the ‘dreams’ parts?  Did we allow this?  Yep, we did.  If it happened, we allowed it.  That’s the Truth, plain and simple.

So…how do we fix that?  Actually, we already did in step one, but remembering what our dreams were…and most importantly, that they don’t need to be hidden or forgotten is how we fix it.

Actually this also answers the second question; ‘What am I doing?’

3. Now I’m going to tell you the answer to the third question.  ‘What am I supposed to be doing?’  Ahh…now we can get down to it.  We are doing exactly what we are supposed to be doing.  Living our lives, laughing, being happy and Loving someone.  I hear some of you hollering something like “Wait” !!  “I’m not doing that! Something or some part of that is missing in my life!”  (waaaaa).

Oh yes…it’s happening…it’s just that maybe you can’t see it.  No really, I speak the truth.  You just can’t see the ‘something’ happening.  That doesn’t mean it isn’t.  Think on it.  So what’s wrong? I’ll tell you… You must ask YOURSELF the Big question:  WHY?  Why have my dreams gotten pushed back and slid down on the importance scale?

Because you allow it to happen.  Why do all the things that seem to govern our thoughts and activities of every-day living do just that?  Because…we BELIEVE the programming of our own mind is from us…and Not believing that it’s the result of programming from sources outside of our self.  Most of humanity is hidden in the cloudy brain fog of other’s desires and beliefs.  You believe…that they control you.  No THEY Don’t!  You are the only one alive that has the final say in what you believe.  Your Beliefs determine your own Truth…your very life.  That is the Truth.

I’ve given you the Truth and now you have the POWER to change your life.  You…and only You…by asking the BIG question:  “WHY”?.

The “Doc” – Earl A Purkey

 

Live the Good life and be Happy

Live the Good life and be Happy

I believe that people come into your life for a reason, maybe just for a period of time or maybe for a lifetime. Sometimes that reason comes in the form of a bitter but unforgettable lesson. And sometimes, that reason comes in the form of a joyful, positive action that reminds you that there is LOVE and hope still out there. In the article today, I give thanks that this time, the lessons to be learned comes in the happy makes you feel good form. Life happens exactly the way you believe it will.

I’ve always believed that life is not only a playground, but a place where we must strive for freedom – to laugh, to cry, to see, to hear and to love. A person that is enthusiastic about life, is one who is care-free and keeps a sense of simplicity, much like a child. So what do you do when life looks ugly? When you’d give anything at all to laugh but you just can’t. What if you just can’t find it in you.

It appears to be a big mistake when you try to open the door of happiness for the wrong reasons using the wrong tools. Happiness is more than a feeling.  It is a state of being. Being happy feels good but be careful for those feelings may be changeable and temporary. They don’t always result in a contented state. Maybe only a moment of elusive ecstasy.

There are mindsets that need to be changed. The more you are happy for people when you hear of their happiness, and what made them that way…the more you feel happy and feeling happy feels good, therefore you will feel happy more often. Being appreciative and happy feels good. Making someone happy, feels even better. Life is a choice. You are either going to choose to be happy and have a great life or be unhappy and make everyone around you feel absolutely miserable.

When life appears so complex you start to doubt the value of being happy, you must remember the importance of just how good it feels. It is far more practical than you think. The feeling of happiness precedes the experience, not the other way around, so it makes far more sense to start with feeling joy, even if the only place you can find it is in your own heart. Hang out there and welcome the warmth and comfort. You’re worth it. Doing so actually serves everyone.

Often, in the rush of life, The perception of happiness becomes more about the result of success and materialistic milestones, which often cause us to forget that everything we need to be happy is already right in front of us. Our health, our family, our friends, our social contributions, our perspective, and our gratitude – these are the ingredients for joy. Everything we need is right here, right now.

I love and I laugh. I live my life everyday the way that I’m meant to. Some days are harder than others, some people nicer than others. Every new day brings a new challenge and new experiences. I try to be a happy person. I work hard when I work and play hard when I play. I often try to infuse one with the other and encourage everyone I meet to do the same. Everyone has a story, and I try to live mine.

If there’s any big secret to life, it is that there is no secret. Every day is the result of your belief systems and lives up to your expectations. Therefore, when you start your day, if you can make your first thought: “Something wonderful is going to happen today.” Guess what? You’re probably right.

Also I believe in practicing mindfulness in your everyday life. Learning and acting upon an idea brings a concept to Life and into your experience. Wealth, Health and Wisdom are concepts. Let this become your vision and start living the good and happy life.

Earl A. Purkey – The ‘Doc’